|Posted by Mevonnie Hugh on February 2, 2012 at 4:10 PM|
How To Become Optimistic
The Oxford English Dictionary defines optimism as having "hopefulness and confidence about the future or successful outcome of something; a tendency to take a favourable or hopeful view."
I consider myself a happy person and it pains me when I hear negative talk over, and over, and over again. I seriously want to do just about anything to get away from the person, the conversation, the group, whatever.
Maybe you have been laid off from your job. Maybe you’re looking at various other opportunities out there but you have friends who say things such as, “nothing is happening”, “there’s no work out there”. So you take this as gospel and instead of investigating other avenues of generating an income in the interim, you hang out on the corner.
You are being influenced by hopelessness and uncertainty.
You are to attend an interview and you’ve been told that “at ‘X’ company the sales manager is a difficult person”. Before you even sit across from your interviewer you will probably perceive that you don’t have sufficient experience or would not be able to accomplish your monthly sales quota.
If you say “I can’t do this” then you most likely will not be able to. This is because your subconscious mind tends to believe what it hears thereby limiting your ability for accomplishments. Instead of being negative and telling yourself “I can’t do this” you should ask yourself the question: “how can I do this?”, “how can I get this to work?”
If you encourage pessimistic thoughts then you tend to be sad, miserable and unproductive. Ever heard of “if you dwell on something it will probably happen”? I believe in dwelling on good things. If you are unsuccessful in life maybe you should start telling yourself mentally that you are successful.
Years ago when I was trying new ventures and had no one to accompany me on my quests, my dad told me something that I will never forget. He said “you were not born a twin, you were born alone. If you don’t do what you have to do, no one is going to do it for you”.
So, if you are not fortunate enough to have someone to support you in your endeavours then talk to yourself. Give yourself a pep talk. One step is all it takes to be on the road to successful goals. Be creative and challenge yourself to start thinking of solutions instead of banging your head against the wall thinking about the problem. This will only give you a headache.
You need to maximize your successes and minimize your failures. Minimize your failures: Not that failure is a bad thing. Be honest with yourself and think about your failures. Identify your weaknesses and ask yourself “how can I learn from this?”, “how can I build something from this?” Make your failures a learning experience. Be optimistic.
Maximize your successes: Think about of all the ways in which you have been successful and ask yourself: “what are my strengths?”, “what are the reasons why this worked?” Congratulate yourself and maximize those strengths. Be optimistic.
Stop the pessimism! Stop limiting your potential! Stop sabotaging yourself! Every time you hear yourself thinking bad or negative about yourself, do a flip and turn that thought into a positive one. Stop hanging around people who only have negative assessments of themselves and others! Turn yourself around and then suggest that they do the same. You will feel better about yourself and have a less stressful life.
“The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty.” – Winston Churchill
About the Author: Mevonnie Hugh is an affiliate marketer/ independent business owner who promotes business opportunities & healthy living both online and offline. Learn more at http://proearnja.com and http://mymiracleplant.blogspot.com
Categories: Personal Development